Who is a couple?

A couple is two people who are married, living together, or having a sexual relationship.

When two people come together there is a huge investment of emotion from both the sides. A culmination of a healthy relationship can bring about a lot of progress not only for the couple who are in relationship but also to all the members who attached to the couple. While every couple strives to be the best, there are times when conflicts arise. The best thing to do is to address the conflict the time it arises rather than waiting for it manifest into a pattern that is hard to reverse. The negative patterns generally originate from projecting the void of any one or both the partners on each other. This primarily also means that the relationship reciprocal in nature. Just like we need to put in effort to grow a sapling into and plant and eventually a tree – a relationship also requires conscious effort, dedication and commitment to make it better.

There are many possible reasons of conflict and discord in a relationship, including insecure attachment, ego, arrogance, jealousy, anger, greed, poor communication, ill health, third parties and so on. In general couple can have differences because of Finance, Communication, Sexual Conduct, infidelity etc.

It is important to recognize and acknowledge that each person has a unique personality, perception, set of values and history. So when individuals come together they also bring in the energy of all the experiences they have had from the time they are born. Institutional and societal variables (like the social, religious, group and other collective factors) which shape a person's nature and behavior are considered in the process of counseling and therapy to identify and resolve conflict.

The basic frame work that we work on in therapy is as follows:

• To identify the repetitive, negative interaction cycle as a pattern.
• To understand the source of reactive emotions that drives the pattern.
• To expand and re-organize key emotional responses in the relationship.
• To facilitate a shift in partners' interaction to new patterns of interaction.
• To create new and positively bonding emotional events in the relationship
• To foster a secure attachment between partners.
• To help maintain a sense of intimacy.